Ballerina Farm is a social media brand centered on a Mormon mother with a trad-wife lifestyle.
Her name is Hannah.
She grows much of her own food, cooks from scratch (even makes juice), and raises eight children without a nanny.
What Strikes the Public:
Hannah’s Sacrifices:
Hannah gave up her dreams of being a dancer to be a mother.
She was invited to Juilliard (one of the best-performing arts schools in the U.S. with an 11% acceptance rate) but declined to embrace her role as a wife and mother.
Many women sacrifice a lot, often feeling they must prove their worth, aligning with masculine energy—this comes from how we’re socialized to devalue our authentic feminine radiance out of scarcity.
As someone who worked as a nanny, I’ve seen women make numerous concessions, often under similar circumstances.
Her Husband’s Controlling Nature:
In an interview that boosted their popularity, Hannah's husband was overbearing, often overshadowing her responses.
“I don’t know, I just have never loved taking it (the epidural).” She stops herself. “Except with Martha — I was two weeks overdue and she was 10lb and Daniel wasn’t with me … ” She lowers her voice. Daniel is currently out of the room taking a phone call. “So I got an epidural. And it was an amazing experience.” Where was Daniel that day? “It was shipping day [for the meat boxes] and he was manning the crew.” But the epidural was kind of great? She pauses — and smiles. “It was kinda great.”
Hannah even mentioned enjoying her only epidural when her husband wasn’t present, hinting at his preference for natural births.
Also, the Ballerina Farm LLC is under his name, reinforcing his controling presence.
Things I Found Striking:
Discernment is Important:
His dad owns Jet Blue, and she thought he was coincidentally placed beside her on a flight, sparking their romance.
At this point, he’d been trying to date her for months.
Nothing is a coincidence.
Their meeting on the plane was deliberate—he confirmed this.
Sure, it seems romantic, but discernment tells you a man you rejected several times might harbor resentment or obsession.
“I saw her and I was ready to go,” he says. “Sign me up. I was thinking, ‘Let’s get married.’ But she wouldn’t go on a date with me for six months.”
This makes it likely he'll treat you like an object of his imagination.
Relationships with any man come with risks; someone socialized to think their love life will unfold like a rom-com might not be aware of this.
Discernment is essential for the health of your savage feminine energy.
Levels of Sympathy for Wealthy White Women:
The amount of sympathy people have for a wealthy white woman whose oven costs more than their yearly rent is noteworthy.
She chose this life and feels happy.
Some women do just as much for less…
It would make more sense for her to pity normies that aren’t married to a multi-millionaire who could likely be inheriting the company Jet Blue.
Evaluate whether your values align with hers, not whether they are good.
Would you be willing to live her life?
I wouldn't have a child without a full-time nanny and cleaning lady.
She does this times eight with a smile.
I would be miserable, so our values do not align.
Would I encourage you to do it?
No, but if you’d be happy, that's valid.
Everyone Has Different Wants, Desires, Values:
As much as you might think you know what's best for her, she will live her life in an aligned way.
I'm a feminine energy coach.
I help women develop felt presence and channel their creative essence to align with their dream lives.
But I can't tell people what that dream life should look like.
I can share my perspective, even hate her husband, but ultimately, a woman will choose her path.
Whether you hate Hannah’s husband because you think he's financially controlling or has brainwashed her—she claims to be happy and stays there, articulating that he's a hands-on father who supports her.
Critical Lessons for You:
Connect with a Man’s Emotional Body, Not His Ego:
A man will treat you like a product if you sell yourself as someone with benefits.
Women inherently have gorgeous, feminine benefits; you don't need to sell yourself.
Men socialized to exploit women won't be able to connect with you emotionally because they don't value feminine energy (your receptive, creative, authentic energy).
Running on default programming, these men will bulldoze through anyone to reach their perceived “top."
They want a woman who solves their problems, and they can control—that feeds their ego.
Instead, learn how to connect with a man’s emotional body (don't confuse this with oversharing) and facilitate a deeper connection.
Emotional intimacy facilitates safety.
Value Servant Leadership in Men:
Controlling men who can't embody servant leader energy won't provide space for your savage energy.
You’ll be too scared to assert boundaries or articulate your feelings.
I look out at the vastness and don’t totally agree. Daniel wanted to live in the great western wilds, so they did; he wanted to farm, so they do; he likes date nights once a week, so they go (they have a babysitter on those evenings); he didn’t want nannies in the house, so there aren’t any.
Even if a man is "helping you" and is a "hands-on father," you will do most of the housework or at least be blamed for the condition of the home.
Usually I am doing battle with steely Hollywood publicists; today I am up against an army of toddlers who all want their mum and a husband who thinks he knows better.
Your savage feminine energy needs to jive well with him, just as much as your soft feminine.
Learn to embody your savage feminine energy so he doesn’t take you for granted—only a man who takes you for granted would gift you an egg apron on your birthday.
P.S. If you make self-sacrifice normal, others will feel comfortable sacrificing you.
Discernment is Essential:
“Back then I thought we should date for a year [before marriage],” she continues. “So I could finish school and whatever. And Daniel was, like, ‘It’s not going to work, we’ve got to get married now.’ ” After a month they were engaged. Two months after that they were married, moving into an apartment Daniel rented on the Upper West Side. And three months after that she was pregnant, the first Juilliard undergraduate to be expecting “in modern history”.
Choosing who you marry is a long-term decision.
Don't overlook red flags because you like him.
Things ignored at the beginning usually lead to the end.
Men who rush commitment are just as bad, if not worse, as those who do nothing to progress the relationship because they’re rushing for a reason.
Case in point: Gazelle and Hindz who got married after their first date for the husband to cheat on her with his assistant who was only a couple of years older than his daughter.
Abusive Men Will Be Abusive:
It doesn’t matter if they’re wealthy or broke.
You might as well date for love AND money.
An affluent, abusive man will use HIS money to control you.
A broke, abusive man will use YOUR money to control you by sabotaging your financial stability.
I've worked with women who struggle in both settings.
Choose a good man who attunes to you and your needs.
They have a cleaner but no childcare; Neeleman does all the food shopping — kids in tow — and cooks from scratch (they “don’t do” ready meals).
Good Girls Finish Last:
Being a ‘good girl’ leaves you sick, exhausted, and overworked.
When I say good girl I'm suggesting a woman who has normalized suppressing her anger, discontent, and sadness.
Good girls are overly in their soft feminine energy, ending up in masculine energy to perform pleasure or nurture others when burnt out.
Daniel says, Neeleman sometimes gets so ill from exhaustion that she can’t get out of bed for a week.
Learn to channel your savage feminine in a way that facilitates your soft life.
A soft life doesn't require millions or billions; it requires the space to attune to your wants and needs.
It also requires the space to feel your feelings.
Conclusion:
Reflecting on Hannah's life, we must remember that our society, built on chattel slavery, perpetuates dynamics where exploitation must exist.
There will always be someone ready and willing to exploit another—the brainwashing runs deep, especially when interacting with men.
Consider whether Hannah’s values align with yours instead of passing judgment and wanting to convince people that her lifestyle is wrong.
This approach makes these types of women more open to your input, anyway.
In the comments, please let me know what type of lifestyle aligns with your values and aspirations.
Resources I used to write this article:
https://www.thetimes.com/world/us-world/article/my-day-with-the-trad-wife-queen-and-what-i-really-thought-of-her-qmbmmhkp8
https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRouwvb4/
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRoHevjo/
https://www.dnb.com/business-directory/company-profiles.ballerina_farm_llc.596b23d0ce72ae200d86eb667427f9fb.html
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