How to manifest a specific person

Limerence as something that can be released

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Have you ever felt absolutely enthralled by a man?

And this is a safe space, okay?

I don’t want to hear any of the “pick-me” stuff.

There is a time and place for that and right now I just want us to be honest with ourselves.

Have you ever felt that a specific man showing up for you would literally change your life for the better?

He would hold you in all the ways you need to be held.

He would provide you with the security you’ve been yearning for.

He would safeguard your heart in his hands and make sure it was always safe.

Because I definitely have.

I haven’t in a while, but I definitely have.

The last time I desired a man like that was about a year ago, when I was under extreme amounts of stress.

He was attracted to me, don’t get me wrong, but attraction is never enough.

I remember the moment we both realized we were into each other.

We were meeting up with a group of people.

He came late, but this group adored him; probably because of his proximity to extreme wealth.

He was about to step away for a second to grab lunch, and he just stood there, staring at me.

I think he was hoping I’d say I wanted to come with him.

Hoping we could finally be alone… even just for twenty, thirty minutes.

And I just stared back.

The air between us felt so heavy.

My heart was pounding against my ribcage.

All the aching.

All the energy.

But it goes nowhere without structure and safety.

And all that is left is the soft, dangerous murmurs of something that could have been love.

I couldn’t bring myself to say that I wanted to go.

I didn’t know if I wanted to go, it felt like a yes but it was so scary.

I wanted him to invite me.

This is what it looks like when there’s no masculine container for attraction.

Just a lot of feelings and energy, chemistry even, but not enough structure.

Not enough safety.

What I was experiencing back then was limerence.

Limerence in simple terms is when you are so intensely preoccupied with someone that you begin to feel emotionally dependent on the thought of them.

It is an addiction to what could be with someone who is not showing up in the way they do in your fantasies.

Limerence is exactly the reason why manifesting a person can be difficult.

When manifesting a person, because of their free will, the usual manifestation rules don’t always apply.

You’re dealing not only with their free will but also their unique perspective of the universe.

So while, typically, you would be allowing the universe to conform to give you your desires, now the expectation is that the universe conform to have them experience what they must experience so that they can show up how you need them to.

Trauma-informed magnetism isn’t about being palatable to powerful men.

It’s about knowing which men are actually safe for your nervous system and reclaiming the spiritual strength that patriarchy tried to cut you off from.

I know manifestation talk can feel like fantasy, especially when you’ve been betrayed before.

But women are powerful.

You are powerful.

Not from a naive place.

From a grounded, regulated, embodied one.

I’ve seen this power work in my own life, and I want more women to experience that too.

In the rest of this mini lesson, we’re diving deep into the mechanics of manifesting a specific person (how it differs from general manifestation, and the soft skills that help you move through limerence with power and grace).

This is about more than mindset.

It’s about energy, somatic self-trust, and deep nervous system regulation.

If you’re ready for the full breakdown (plus access to my private archive of teachings on feminine energy, discernment, and dream girl embodiment), join as a monthly or annual member today.