The Ultimate Feminine Energy Guide for Women Who Desire Soft Lives
Dive into your feminine energy
Brought to you by Inner Noor (Kylie)
Who am I?
My name is Kylie; I founded Inner Noor.
I grew up in New York as a low-income, first-generation eldest daughter of immigrants.
I then went to NYU to study creative arts therapy as a medium for urban and business informatics, which is a fancy way to say art therapy and marketing.
I grew up hearing my immigrant parents tell me I had to work hard for everything I wanted.
But I felt dissonance in this “truth” because every time I received one of my desires, it came from the most random places.
Over time, I realized that blessings pop up in your life when you are in alignment.
As if it were magic.
And this is why I work to help women develop their feminine energy.
Because I want you to experience the same magic that life offers.
I want you to fully embody your wild, sultry, savage, sweet, loving self.
I want to help you get comfortable channeling all your energies because there are so many different versions of you that you deserve to tap into.
This freebie is an all-inclusive guide.
It uses Tantra, which has Hindu and Buddhist origins, to guide your understanding of the core needs for deepening feminine energy.
Think Maslow's hierarchy of needs, but a hierarchy dedicated to deepening your feminine energy in a way that supports your soft life.
I deliberately used spirituality as the basis of the ebook because 90% of feminine energy is releasing control over the “shoulds” and embodying faith.
As you read the following content, please be aware that your censor might appear.
Your censor is that little judgemental voice that tells you:
You don’t deserve good things.
How can something be real if it doesn’t make logical sense?
Everything you do, you do wrong.
Your censor is there to keep you safe, not happy.
Your censor is a mixture of all the limiting beliefs programmed into you and your body’s human desire to survive.
Observe the censor's negative thoughts, and write them down while you read this.
But do not accept what she's saying as truth.
Remain open and continue reading.
What is Feminine Energy?
Feminine energy is your creative and receptive essence.
She’s not supposed to make sense, she’s supposed to be.
Committing to your feminine energy journey will be the most healing path you will ever take, especially if you were raised to be hardworking, independent, and productive.
My job as a feminine energy coach is to help you embrace your femininity so that you can tune into your body’s needs despite the loudness of the external world.
If you are interested in booking me for a coaching session to help deepen your discernment in dating, channel different energies through your body, become more in tune with your authenticity, and build your online presence, click this link to book a coaching session with me.
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What is the difference between savage & soft energy?
Soft life:
“A life of ease, peace, comfort, and intentional happiness. It does not require struggle love, stress, and distress. It consists of mutual relationships, clarity, and self care.”
(@idomyownstunts on IG)
To live a soft life, you must get in touch with all four of your polarity chakras: root, sacral, solar plexus, and heart.
The savage chakras represent the creative energy you must channel to be safe from predators.
We must also channel our inner savages to ensure our loved ones don’t overstep our boundaries.
The savage energy is typically represented as “dark feminine.”
The soft chakras represent our ability to be connected, and basking in pleasure.
This energy is typically represented as “light feminine.”
If you did not grow up witnessing peace, you probably know that you need to deepen your embodiment of light feminine energy.
However, something that is not spoken about enough is embodying our inner savage in a way that honors growth instead of limiting it.
All men have an innate predator and energy conservation mechanism, which allows them to keep us safe and avoid spending energy in areas that are not required.
This is what we find attractive about them.
We want them to keep us safe and only invest in us because we are unique (dare I say special).
But, around the wrong men, that inner predator and energy conservation system comes out at your expense.
Witnessing an overworked woman's savage energy and a man’s predator (when he isn’t trying to use it for your well-being) will leave your subconscious addicted to the same exhausted dynamics you grew up witnessing.
And if not that, something similar and equally unsatisfying.
Your dream soft life NEEDS you to learn how to channel your savageness because the savage creates the energetic, safe space (container) for your softness.
A little bit on your divine union:
Once you come into divine union with your masculine counterpart, your energy shifts so that you can lean deeper into your soft feminine essence because his male presence (with hints of predator instincts) is an external force that supplements your savageness.
This is why it is essential to only choose a man who provides and protects because otherwise, there will be little polarity.
Unless you’re willing to do this for him, of course.
Questions that will help you weed out the misfits:
Can he currently provide the lifestyle that you want?
Does he protect you and your reputation?
Is he showing the characteristics of a good father?
Your divine partner will give you the comforts of safety in our material world, and you give him the blessing that is your creative presence.
As a feminine energy coach, I help you better channel the appropriate savage and soft energies.
Root Chakra (savage)
Affirmation: “I am the valuable, divinely protected daughter of a loving God (universe/lineage).”
Exercise (1):
Slow down:
Let yourself pause before responding when someone asks you a question.
Incorporate heels into your wardrobe for a slower strut.
Don’t interrupt others mid-sentence by focusing your energy in your womb space when the itch to do so comes up.
If your root chakra is blocked, you might chronically feel unsafe, you’re probably continuously worried about money (even if you have enough), you probably are too scared to connect to others authentically, and you’re exhibiting signs of emotional reactivity.
An imbalanced root chakra also suggests that you have trouble with *allowing* things to happen (e.g., letting God/the universe surprise you) and feel like you need to consciously make things happen.
But the beauty of basking in your feminine essence is that you become this refreshing, aligned being where your desires almost magically appear to you.
It has little to do with going into the 3D and making it happen; instead, it has everything to do with being in touch with your intuition and essence.
Your root chakra grounds all the sequential energy channels, so if this one is imbalanced, it will 1000% affect how you express your feminine energy.
Emotional reactivity is a way that we sabotage our relationships.
How I understand it is similar to how I perceive someone being triggered.
An emotional wound within you has been grazed by another (typically without their awareness), and you are lashing out to keep yourself safe.
There’s a healthier way to digest your feelings and heal your triggers, and it will require that you stop numbing and suppressing yourself so you can finally feel.
Exercise (2):
Write about your most challenging life experience for fifteen to twenty minutes as a stream of consciousness (meaning don’t lift your pen from the paper). Do this for three consecutive days, and don’t share what you write.
When I did this activity, I gained a memory that my mind had suppressed because of how painful it was.
But, because the memory was pulled to my consciousness, I could cry and feel it instead of resenting men for how my father treated my mother.
Working on your root chakra is essential because feminine energy requires a sense of safety.
Without the security of a balanced root chakra, we witness the same desperation that comes from hunger and only having processed or sugar-filled foods in the fridge…
Our body might be craving something more nourishing.
Still, the availability of ANYTHING that will satisfy us takes precedence over what we might want if we were in a healthier space.
Exercise (3):
Follow SMEGETS
This acronym helped me understand why I might have an energetic and emotional imbalance.
I ironically envision both baguettes and Smeagol from Lord of the Rings when I think of it.
S - Did you get enough sleep?
M - Have you recently indulged in mind-altering substances (like alcohol)?
E - Have you exercised or moved your body at all today?
G - Have you given thanks for the blessings in your life?
E - Are you eating and giving your body the food it needs?
T - Tracking your hormones is crucial; what phase of your menstrual cycle are you in?
S - Have you been under the sun for at least 30 minutes?
Sacral Chakra (soft)
Affirmation: “It gets to be easy. It gets to be fun.”
Exercise:
Have fun
Explore your body (look at your vulva and speak kind words to her)
Dance to music that makes you feel sexy and happy
Dress up and take yourself out on a solo date at least once a week
If your sacral chakra is blocked, you might be all work and no play, you can’t enjoy time with yourself, and you might be emotionally dependent on your career because it gives you something to do with yourself.
You might even feel a sense of pride about your ability to negate your needs to get the job done.
A blocked sacral chakra really shows in a woman’s body...
My sacral chakra was severely wounded as I was overwhelmed with trying to get good grades as an undergrad student.
I suffered from acne, being overweight, and hormonal imbalances, which led to premenstrual dysphoric disorder.
This is the chakra that is activated when we are feeling playful, excited, and beautiful.
The best part is that your sacral chakra has an entirely unique look to you.
I remember people telling me that I needed to learn to have fun.
And they were right.
But not in the go-out drinking and dance-the-night-away method.
I needed to learn what filled my body with joy, which I've realized now to be long walks in luxurious neighborhoods, getting my nails done, shopping for the newest Tom Ford scent, belly dancing, creating content, and finetuning how I channel my different flavors.
Learning etiquette helped me better channel my playful princess persona, while learning martial arts helped me channel my badass warrior nun persona; I now have fun switching between depending on my craving.
Unleashing your inner vivacious, sultry kitten is about enjoying YOU in all of your many facets.
When you're in this energy, I swear things are magnetized to you like magic.
In this energy, I randomly manifested a new Apple iPad, thousands of dollars, and the opportunity to move to Miami.
The key to this is to detach from what your ego and what other people tell you that things should look like and instead tap into what will genuinely make you feel joy.
It would help if you also released the "how" and focused on whether taking any particular action is in alignment.
You cannot control other people and how things turn out, but you CAN show up in the full potency of your inner noor.
(Your inner divine light.)
People are saying your names in rooms filled with blessings that the current version of you can't even conceptualize.
You just have to get more in touch with *you*.
Solar Plexus Chakra (savage)
Affirmation: “Who gets to worship me today?”
Exercise:
Receive something at least once a day
At least once a day, allow someone to help you—even with something as small as opening the door for you.
When someone offers to give you something, even a small compliment, receive it with a “thank you.”
Leave your house feeling and looking beautiful every day so you can receive the high vibrations that come with confidence.
If your solar plexus is blocked, you might feel insecure, fear taking up space, and continuously surround yourself with people who are not (to put it bluntly) good enough for you.
They might be good enough for someone else, just not you.
The solar plexus chakra governs your sense of confidence, identity, inner strength, discipline, and assertiveness.
You might get mad at men when they compliment or refuse help if you're blocked.
Your solar plexus affects your ability to show up in your heart energy, so clearing any blockages is essential.
This means only dating men and surrounding yourself with women with the same values.
No more dating losers who you have to fix.
No more dating broke men who have the potential to make more money.
No more being friends with people who secretly resent you.
Have discernment over who you surround yourself with.
The desire to fit in with others who are not at your level and have nothing to offer you will stagnate your true potential.
Instead, search for people who have similar values as you.
This will look like people who are taking steps to live the life you are trying to live or are already living the life you are trying to live.
Frankly, under those parameters, most men are not good enough for you, and that’s not something that you need to feel shame for.
And, as you deepen your feminine energy, many masculine women will start to feel jealous of you, so it is crucial to be discerning.
To honor your solar plexus, you must also be deliberate about communicating your needs and boundaries.
Communicate your needs succinctly and objectively, with confidence and the internal knowing that people who care about you will not mind meeting you where you are at.
If your censor is coming up in response to what I’m saying, ask yourself, “Why am I too scared to voice my needs?”
Surrounding yourself with people who respect you will help you bloom into a confident goddess.
Kylie, how do I really know if a man I’m dating has the same values as me?
He’ll tell you.
You have to believe him.
Ask him a flattering variation of “Why are you single?”
A healthy sacral chakra will help you spot people who cannot honor you so that you can give them the appropriate amount of access to you.
Heart Chakra (soft)
Affirmation: “I am worthy of love because I am love.”
Exercise:
Do 10 gratitude entries every morning: “I feel grateful for…”
If you have a blocked heart chakra, you might think of your emotions as a weakness, you might have a looming disdain for femininity, and your generosity may continuously be tinted with resentment.
Pause for a moment...
Clear your mind and look at your fingers.
You’re going to start feeling tingles.
This is good!
It means your body is circulating blood.
What you did was a body scan.
Body scans help you ground yourself in the sensations that are constantly occurring.
Sometimes, if the sensations are uncomfortable, we try to numb ourselves with sugar, alcohol, weed, and people who don't deserve to be around us.
When we implement scanning our body, we make time for sensations that come up; we make space to return to self.
From now on, you are to ask yourself, "Do I want to __(insert action)__?"
Right before you do something.
If it's not a "fuck yes," a "yay," an "of course," or a happy squeal, then it's a no.
It's essential to show up in comfortable and natural ways so we don't feel like we're overextending ourselves.
Please remember that as you embody more of this goddess (balanced chakra) and self-loving energy, it might take some time for the people around you to adjust.
Your healthy heart chakra comes with the ability to curate a loving, safe environment.
If YOU feel unsafe, making others feel safe will be virtually impossible (root chakra).
Providing a loving environment will be unsustainable if YOU cannot enjoy and have fun while doing it (sacral chakra).
Suppose YOU are not choosey with whom you allow to enjoy the energetic space that you've created---there will be people who may take advantage or overindulge to the point of exhausting you (solar plexus).
All these energies must be present for healthy relationships and polarity.
“People will do anything for those who encourage their dreams, allay their fears, confirm their suspicions, and help them throw rocks at their enemies.”
Blair Warren
Holding grace for another is the core of seduction.
When you’ve activated your feminine energy, that inner light unique to you, people will do anything for you.
Learning feminine communication skills will help tap into your heart chakra and create a safe space for you and your loved ones.
"I feel" statements are disarming and allow both parties to approach conflict with curiosity.
A generic template for communicating your emotions:
I feel (insert emotion) that (insert circumstance) because (insert your truth).
*Avoid the word “you” when communicating your feelings*
If this was a negative emotion (and it was communicated properly), then the right people would try to find a solution or be open to hearing out what your needs are.
When you see how much easier life becomes as a result of you stepping into your feminine energy, do not feel ashamed that you have been blessed with ease.
Thank the forces that be and take aligned action.
Seems like you copy & paste this whole thing. What makes your goofy ass qualified?