One of the girlies who follow me recently asked, “Why am I feminine around some men and masculine around others?”
This question reminded me of a circumstance that happened way back during my freshman year of college.
There was this senior guy who was friendly—my friends and I, all freshmen, had a crush on him.
I remember being in the same dorm room as he and his friends once because he’d ended up dating one of my girlies.
I couldn’t sit still—I was jittery, awkward, and tense.
This was long before I had healed my feminine energy embodiment so I didn’t know how to honor the discomfort that came up for me or how to support the response that my nervous system was having.
He and his senior friends must’ve thought I was on something.
Later, we found out that he had allegedly assaulted a girl, and the college administration had covered it up.
I’m not surprised; from the bottom of my heart, I had never trusted him.
But, back to the point—I couldn’t relax when I was around him and his friends because I felt unsafe.
Some men can’t create the safety necessary for you to express your feminine energy because their innate predatory instincts surface at your expense.
Your subconscious picks up on this—your intuition knows before your brain can articulate it.
Don’t get me wrong—your masculine essence coming out with certain men isn’t always a man’s fault.
Sometimes our bodies assume certain triggers will leave us unsafe, e.g. a man with a deep voice is someone who you can’t be safe around because you were harassed by a guy with a deep voice once.
Another possibility is that you’re so used to feeling unsafe around men that when you encounter safe men, your nervous system doesn’t know how to recognize that they will treat you well.
We as women have been conditioned to seek validation from unhealthy men, and brainwashed by the patriarchy into believing we need their approval to be worthy, as if feminine beings aren’t born worthy.
This makes it hard to center ourselves and our sensations—recognizing these sensations, honing your discernment, and making sure you channel your feminine energy in a way that attracts healthy masculines is the work that I do with my coaching clients.
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I meant to say, “ Don’t get me wrong—your masculine essence coming out with certain men isn’t always a man’s fault.” And this is objectively true because there can be a scenario where a woman in our lives might have projected her own experiences onto ours before we were even conscious enough to have an actual understanding.