I agree. When i was in my early 20s I knew in my gut it wasn't right to split bills with a man but all my friends thought it was okay so I accepted it. When I turned 24 a guy I wasn't even very attracted to got me pregnant by coming inside me without my consent and do you know what he did? He offered to split the cost of abortion. Thankfully my insurance covered it but he did not buy me dinner or a cab ride home the evening after i got out. He was not even the classic jerk type, just a spineless, broke young "nice" man who was disconnected from his masculinity.
That was my last straw. That man got into my pants thru a friendship where we split bills and this is part of why I do not believe men and women can authentically be friends. It has been through intense experiences with men that helped me form boundaries with them that i wont back down on.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience 💗🙏. I really appreciate your feedback. I mention in another post, being in a relationship with ANY man inherently involves a power dynamic. It’s heartbreaking that we’ve been conditioned to feel like we owe men access to us. I’m glad you were able to learn from your experience, even though it breaks my heart to hear what you went through. Sending you love.
Kylie!! Happy birthday Gem. I'm a Libra moon with my Venus in Gemini. This is cosmic confirmation of our connection. I genuinely enjoy your creative words from your Inner Door Archive. Yes, waiting till 19 to have my first boyfriend and how different that experience was from the relationship with my first girlfriend at 24 was eye opening. We restrict access to ourselves now because like you rightly said all interactions and relationship have power dynamics and bring inherent risk. Especially those with men. Now at 28, I am so proud to be reconnected to self and also embodying more creativity! I'm publishing Naija Cycle Syncing Guide, a guide on cycle syncing and lifestyle using Nigerian cuisine next week on Amazon and Selar. I'd like to say thank you because your content is always affirmation. Happy birthday again!
I agree. When i was in my early 20s I knew in my gut it wasn't right to split bills with a man but all my friends thought it was okay so I accepted it. When I turned 24 a guy I wasn't even very attracted to got me pregnant by coming inside me without my consent and do you know what he did? He offered to split the cost of abortion. Thankfully my insurance covered it but he did not buy me dinner or a cab ride home the evening after i got out. He was not even the classic jerk type, just a spineless, broke young "nice" man who was disconnected from his masculinity.
That was my last straw. That man got into my pants thru a friendship where we split bills and this is part of why I do not believe men and women can authentically be friends. It has been through intense experiences with men that helped me form boundaries with them that i wont back down on.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience 💗🙏. I really appreciate your feedback. I mention in another post, being in a relationship with ANY man inherently involves a power dynamic. It’s heartbreaking that we’ve been conditioned to feel like we owe men access to us. I’m glad you were able to learn from your experience, even though it breaks my heart to hear what you went through. Sending you love.
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Kylie!! Happy birthday Gem. I'm a Libra moon with my Venus in Gemini. This is cosmic confirmation of our connection. I genuinely enjoy your creative words from your Inner Door Archive. Yes, waiting till 19 to have my first boyfriend and how different that experience was from the relationship with my first girlfriend at 24 was eye opening. We restrict access to ourselves now because like you rightly said all interactions and relationship have power dynamics and bring inherent risk. Especially those with men. Now at 28, I am so proud to be reconnected to self and also embodying more creativity! I'm publishing Naija Cycle Syncing Guide, a guide on cycle syncing and lifestyle using Nigerian cuisine next week on Amazon and Selar. I'd like to say thank you because your content is always affirmation. Happy birthday again!
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